Some people are just natural at emitting confidence, their aura, gestures, words just conveys how comfortable they are with themselves but this is the case for only a few lucky ones…Yes there is a thin line between Confidence & Arrogance hence a lot of people in an effort not to appear arrogant try so so hard to shrink themselves so that they appear more appealing to others! This can be the case in our professional, personal or general life. Am I good enough? or more honestly what if People think I think too Highly of myself? or I think i’m better than everyone? All these thoughts can be very damaging to our self esteem; the need to appear more modest so we don’t intimidate others or worst be segregated & labeled as a “know it all” can frighten us into not taking the steps we need to get to the next level! We can find ourselves now losing the confidence we once had in other to appeal to those who lack confidence.
I came to realise that even confident people still lack confidence in some aspect of their lives, you might have more confidence in your ability to get the job done than you do in your physical appearance; but how do you get from that to becoming all round confident without feeling guilty about it? People often quote ” you can’t have it all ” which off cause is true but we need all the confidence we can get to get through life earnestly. In a conversation with another Twitter user this morning I realise that I wasn’t the only one who had hesitated in chasing their potentials in other not to appear like a “show off”, “Know it all” or “over Confident” Hence my questions, Why should I feel Guilty for expressing my full potentials? Why is it not ok to be Confident? Why is confidence seen as a threat to others and lastly what damages has this done to some of us?
We still have a long way to go in order to support people for who they are but for a start we can stop being threatened by others’ ability to express themselves & instead be inspired by them. There’s nothing wrong in being okay with who you are so we should stop making them guilty for being comfortable in who they are if we are ever going to break the circle of lack of confidence. I want to speak honestly, act recklessly and live expressively without worrying about others judgements, lets promote eachothers growth Not Damage them! if you see any confident person, well be happy for them, take a leaf off their book, fake it till you make it then Own it & inspire others too!
Love Promise x
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